An interesting concept I came across today was the idea of structure vs romance; what is more important in a relationship. Combined with a couple essays I read of the different types of love eros, stroge, etc. I haven’t been able to make up my mind.

Structure provides stability. I know my place, they know theirs, everyone knows what is expected of them. Both parties have drafted the bare minimum requirements both parties need for the relationship to work.

Things begin to get blurry when love gets involved. I have no problem with affectionate love getting involved seeing as how it’s a low simmering sort of love than slowly builds up over time. There’s enough working space there, and if anything, it sets up a stronger foundation than the eros variety.

The eros variety is something I don’t not believe in, but rather something I don’t particularly trust. I’m more drawn to the non-sexual emotional closeness of the other types, only because it provides for a stronger foundation. If eros were to incorporate itself to an already grounded emotional relationship, that would be something I’d find myself more comfortable with.

Staring out with eros; that lust and desire to mate, then having things evolve into a romantic attachment, into a sort of commitment based on that initial feeling of lust. Lust and attraction are temporary states, hence not trustworthy. Attachment is what makes long-lasting relationships last in the first place.